2-Day: Couples Experiential: Live Clinical Demonstrations with Real Couples featuring Terry Real

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RELATIONAL LIFE INSTITUTE

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Terry Real, LICSW, is an Internationally Recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.

A family therapist and teacher for more than 25 years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner), and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy — and greater personal fulfillment.

A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents, to help them create the connection they desire in their relationships.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from the “Good Morning America”, “The Today Show” and “20/20”, to “Oprah” and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

The New York Times Book Review described Terry’s work as: “A critical contribution to feminist psychology (that) brings the Men’s movement a significant step forward.” Robert Bly hailed it as “moving onto new ground in both story and song. Exhilarating in its honesty.”

Terry’s Relational Life Institute grew out of his extensive and empathic experience. He teaches people how to make their relationships work by providing products and services designed to teach the principles of Relational Life™, so that everyone can enjoy full respect living and craft a healthy life legacy.

 

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Terrence Real is the founder of Relational Life Institute. He receives royalties as a published author. Terry Real receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Terrence Real has no relevant non-financial disclosures.

Objectives

1. Articulate how to move past “he said/she said” to a nuanced and comprehensive relational diagnosis.
2. Construct how to empower the enabling partner in couples where there’s a power differential.
3. Detect how gender issues impact the couple.
4. Develop strategies to gain and use leverage, motivating each partner to move beyond his or her comfort zone.
5. Assess and deal with “preconditions for change,” such as addiction, untreated psychiatric disorders, and violent or sexual acting out.
6. Devise how to help both partners deal with infidelity, moving beyond the conventional victim/perpetrator model.
7. Plan how to handle the issue of secrets in couples therapy.
8. Develop anger management strategies for minimizing rage within couples therapy.
9. Collaborate how to join the couple through the truth, forming an alliance with difficult clients using the art empathic confrontation.
10. Use techniques to move from the present difficulty to early childhood experience.
11. Take part of how to introduce and perform deep trauma work in the couple’s context.
12. Communicate how to introduce and teach new relational skills to couples like empathy, vulnerability, and accountability.

Outline

• Strategies for data gathering
• Diagnose the presenting problem
• Each partner’s reality

• Strategies to gain leverage
• Strategies to use leverage
• Motivate each partner to go beyond comfort zone

• Assess for power differential
• Empower the enabling partner
• Gender issues and their impact

• Preconditions for change
• Addiction
• Untreated psychiatric disorders
• Anger
• Violence/sexual abuse

• Strategies for each person to move on from infidelity
• Go beyond the perpetrator/victim model
• Skills to deal with secrets in the relationship
• Reinvigorate passion into the relationship

• Make their realities collide
• Stance/stance/dance
• Use the relational grid
• Empower the latent
• Reconnect the blatant
• Minimize rage
• Gain leverage
• Join through the truth
• Effective treatment through play and imagination

• Family of origin resonance & multigenerational legacies
• Heal inner child parts
• Tri-part system of the psych: functional adult, wounded child, and adaptive child
• Empower functional adult to re-parent the wounded and adapted child parts

• Empathy
• Vulnerability
• Accountability

Target Audience

• Marriage & Family Therapists
• Psychologists
• Counselors
• Social Workers
• Case Managers
• Addiction Counselors
• Nurses
• Other Mental Health Professionals