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Couples Experiential™ 2016: NEW Live Clinical Demonstrations with Real Couples

Credit Available - See CEUs tab below.

Families and Couples
Terry Real, LICSW
2 Full Days
Audio and Video
Original Program Date:
May 16, 2016
Media Type:
Online Learning


Be part of this once-in-a-lifetime experience!

World renowned couple’s therapist, Terry Real, works intensively with a group of five real couples, getting down to their most intimate issues and demonstrating powerful treatment techniques.

His work with each couple is deep, highly emotional, incisive and often life changing.

Using techniques drawn from the approach he created, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), each couple is led, with extraordinary quickness and precision, to their ‘next step’ toward unlocking their fullest potential. RLT leverages the concept of “relational living” in order to help people address relational and psychological health in relationships.

The format could not be simpler, or more exciting, as you see firsthand, a respected leader in the field work with each couple, one after another, who are experiencing different issues and in need of their own treatment approach.


Witness Terry address and treat key issues often found in Couples Therapy:


Rage ♦ Control ♦ Infidelity ♦ Distance ♦ Lost Passion ♦ Trauma ♦ Addiction ♦ High Ambivalence


How it Works:

  • Each couple names their issues and identify their goals or wishes for the two-day treatment. Terry works with each couple, talking through their issues, articulating where the couple is stuck and where this relationship road block comes from.
  • Watch and learn how Terry performs initial data gathering leading to a rich, precise and relational diagnosis and gain leverage by empowering a disempowered partner. Terry demonstrates powerful strategies to help the couple move forward, delve into deep trauma work, and actively teach new relational skills.
  • Terry breaks and debriefs what you just witnessed, while the audience asks questions, and shares their observations and feelings.



Assess the Relationship

  • Strategies for data gathering
  • Diagnose the presenting problem
  • Each partner’s reality

Use Leverage in Therapy

  • Strategies to gain leverage
  • Strategies to use leverage
  • Motivate each partner to go beyond comfort zone

Power and Control within the Couple

  • Assess for power differential
  • Empower the enabling partner
  • Gender issues and their impact

Strategies to Assess and Treat Obstacles

  • Preconditions for change
  • Addiction
  • Untreated psychiatric disorders
  • Anger
  • Violence/ sexual abuse

Infidelity, Secrets & Lost Passion

  • Strategies for each person to move on from infidelity
  • Go beyond the perpetrator/victim model
  • Skills to deal with secrets in the relationship
  • Reinvigorate passion into the relationship

Strategies to Move Couples Forward

  • Make their realities collide
  • Stance / stance / dance
  • Use the relational grid
  • Empower the latent
  • Reconnect the blatant
  • Minimize rage
  • Gain leverage
  • Join through the truth
  • Effective treatment through play and imagination

Deep Trauma Work and Healing in Couples

  • Family of origin resonance & multigenerational legacies
  • Heal inner child parts
  • Tri-part system of the psych: functional adult, wounded child, and adaptive child
  • Empower functional adult to re-parent the wounded and adapted child parts

Teach Relational Skills

  • Empathy
  • Vulnerability
  • Accountability


  1. Describe how to move past “he said / she said” to a nuanced and comprehensive relational diagnosis.
  2. Demonstrate how to empower the enabling partner in couples where there’s a power differential.
  3. Explain how gender issues impact the couple.
  4. Develop strategies to gain and use leverage, motivating each partner to move beyond his or her comfort zone.
  5. Assess and deal with “preconditions for change,” such as addiction, untreated psychiatric disorders, and violent or sexual acting out.
  6. Discover how to help both partners deal with infidelity, moving beyond the conventional victim/perpetrator model.
  7. Discuss how to handle the issue of secrets in couples therapy.
  8. Develop anger management strategies for minimizing rage within couples therapy.
  9. Show how to join the couple through the truth, forming an alliance with difficult clients using the art empathic confrontation.
  10. Use techniques to move from the present difficulty to early childhood experience.
  11. Demonstrate how to introduce and perform deep trauma work in the couple’s context.
  12. Show how to introduce and teach new relational skills to couples like empathy, vulnerability, and accountability.

Satisfaction Guarantee
Your satisfaction is our goal and our guarantee. Concerns should be addressed to PESI, Inc., PO Box 1000, Eau Claire, WI 54702-1000 or call 1-800-844-8260.

ADA Needs

PESI would be happy to accommodate your ADA needs; please call our Customer Service Department for more information at 800-844-8260.


General Credits

This course is available for 12.5 total CPDs

The HPCSA has declared that any on-line courses CPD/CEU credited by a certified US board, is automatically CPD/CEU credited in South Africa. 

As there are different boards for different disciplines, we at Acacia suggest that you use the Counselling CPD/CEU credits. These correspond to South African credits of one CPD/CEU per 60 minutes. If you choose to use your discipline's credits, please do so at your discretion.

Florida Social Workers

PESI, Inc. is an approved provider with the Florida Board of Clinical Social Work, Marriage and Family Therapy and Mental Health Counseling. Provider Number 50-399. This self-study course qualifies for 12.5 continuing education credits. 



Terry Real, LICSW's Profile

Terry Real, LICSW Related seminars and products

Consultation and Therapy

Private Practice

Terry Real, LICSW, is an Internationally Recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.

A family therapist and teacher for more than 25 years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner), and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy — and greater personal fulfillment.

A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents, to help them create the connection they desire in their relationships.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from the “Good Morning America”, “The Today Show” and “20/20”, to “Oprah” and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

The New York Times Book Review described Terry’s work as: “A critical contribution to feminist psychology (that) brings the Men’s movement a significant step forward.” Robert Bly hailed it as “moving onto new ground in both story and song. Exhilarating in its honesty.”

Terry’s Relational Life Institute grew out of his extensive and empathic experience. He teaches people how to make their relationships work by providing products and services designed to teach the principles of Relational Life™, so that everyone can enjoy full respect living and craft a healthy life legacy.


Speaker Disclosure:

Financial: Terry Real, LICSW, is the founder of Relational Life Institute. Terry receives a speaking honorarium from PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.

Non-financial: Terry Real, LICSW has no relevant non-financial relationships.

Target Audience

Addiction Counselors, Case Managers, Counselors, Marriage & Family Therapists, Nurses, Psychologists, Social Workers, and other Mental Health Professionals

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